There was a girl in our class that disappeared for like 3 weeks, we didn't know why (but her friends did).
She is a nice person, pretty happy and has a good sense of humor, you know. We kind of have the same sense of humor so yesterday I was sending her memes (on instagram, memes are very important to send to everyone) and then she replied haha. She posted something and deleted it so I asked her why and we had a pretty lengthy conversation. So she ended up telling me that she tried to self harm and ended up in the hospital in critical condition because of depression, PTSD and anxiety. I would consider her a friend, not really good friends but you know meme friends and I talk to her in math class. You know how shocking that is to hear right? She never looked like the person who would do those things, yet...
We've all heard "You matter, I'm sorry this happened, cheer up, please be happier, don't do this, etc." While it helps a little, the truth is that it only helps a little. To cheer someone up, you want them to divert them from feeling the way they are, and usually you have to explain a lesson. Make them think about it, and hopefully understand. I'm not the best when it comes to explaining, but I'll do my best.
What we don't think about often but we are exTREMEly lucky to be alive. Going back to health class, you know, when the... activity happens, you are the 1 in like 500million that gets to be alive. The others that could have been you, didn't. So that's already a huge number. Then we get into the second stage. Many people can't afford clean water, food, a shelter, and have to constantly worry about things. We are lucky enough to have these things, and make it this far. If you end it all, think about it. The privilege we have would be wasted. The chances of your future, wasted.
Have you ever thought about if you ended it, where you would go? People who are alive don't know, because we haven't experienced it yet. Is it Heaven? Hell? The next world? Nothingness? Reincarnation? Whatever it is, we haven't experienced it yet. People who are already deceased have, but they can't tell us because there isn't a way (yet) to communicate with the dead. It could be better, or it could be worse. If you have been climbing the same mountain all your life, and suddenly you had to choose the same mountain or a new mountain to climb on for a race, you would most likely choose the mountain you've been climbing for so long, because you have experienced it. If you choose the other mountain, you have a greater chance of risking your life. Putting that into context, if you don't do it, you will get over this time period and grow stronger. Just like doing pushups, it gets easier after each rep. If you do it, then you'll have to face the unknown. It isn't worth taking the risk, if your life is on the line. Life is the MOST valuable thing in this world.
Hope you understood some of this @Maltese. I understand the struggle, I have felt it too.
But it is in your hands to change the situation, good luck.