Hi Currency! oh, no — no worries!! that's really lovely of you
This is for @Mr.rex too, I was thinking on what THT had said here:
but also that I think, as a person, it's more helpful to be able to reflect on our progress, than not know and make misinformed judgements on other reasons as a result.
Background info and an example
it can be tiring to not know what you've done wrong with anything (in life already) and easily become focused on other things which may not actually be so related.
e.g. you enter a competition, lose, not really know what's going on, and you might feel like blaming people or lamenting over your lost. I stress, it is totally okay to feel however you feel. But if you had fun, lamenting over it can take away from your fun :(
I thought of a better one:
Someone's upset at you and you didn't find out why — if you did anything wrong, said anything that upset them, weren't conscious about their feelings, you don't know. So you might feel like blaming them for getting upset, blaming yourself for being a horrid person, or just end up lamenting over it... when it might have just been a misunderstanding for example... (or something that could be sorted out with communicating)
^I've experienced things like this and I've found it pretty horrible.
I would rather that people have the chance to reflect on reasons if they wanted, than be focused on another issue.
Sorry I explain things so convolutedly, I reflect a lot on things
It's also actually a difficult thing, moral ideas — you can tell people all you want that they shouldn't do this or that, but from what I see, the things that move them most are their own experiences and perceptions.
so that said, I would rather give you each a reason, than you lament over not having regular and not knowing why. Even though I may feel differently about regular & status